Here’s a Toast…

Unless you're the best man or maid of honor at a wedding, you never know when you’re going to be asked to give a toast. There are so many different reasons to toast someone - from engagements and weddings to retirement and anniversaries, Seaquins Ballroom thinks it’s always a good idea to be prepared – just in case! Here are some tips on how to make the perfect toast for a variety of occasions:


An Engagement

Toasts to the newly betrothed are meant to be short and sweet. Memorize a favorite quote and have it ready. Wait until the host gives a welcome toast, then offer yours. One woman swears by this fail-safe standby: "Antoine de Saint-Exupery said, 'Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.' To Tom and Mary. You can't take your eyes off each other tonight, but we all know you're just as focused on the road ahead!" Speak clearly and deliberately, look the couple straight in the eyes, and, above all, smile. Remember to keep the tone light and upbeat. Anything weightier than general good wishes and humorous advice should be saved for the rehearsal dinner or the wedding reception.

A Wedding Reception

As opposed to the open-mike informality of the rehearsal dinner, wedding etiquette calls for toasts to be made in a specific order: The best man speaks first, followed by the groom, then the bride, the father of the bride, the groom's father, the mother of the bride, and finally the groom's mother. When this procession is finished, anyone may raise a glass and toast the newlyweds. Just remember not to dawdle, since many others are probably lining up to speak. The couple and the crowd are likely to grow restless if remarks tend toward the generic, so be creative.

A maid of honor in Texas created a time capsule during her toast, asking guests to contribute something to a box that would be opened on the couple's 10th wedding anniversary. A bridesmaid in Minnesota made up a song and played the harmonica to give the bride something borrowed, something "blues."

A Birthday

If it's a major birthday―say, one ending in a zero or a five―you should devote some time to reflecting on the person's life and accomplishments. Use your judgment when it comes to joking about someone's age―the woman who just got a face-lift and Botox injections may not be amused. The toast will feel more personal if you add a few favorite anecdotes. A New Jersey woman recently toasted her husband's 45th by recalling the time he'd made her a "get-out-of-June-free card," absolving her of car-pool duty for 30 days.

An Anniversary

One of the biggest challenges of speaking at a party for a milestone anniversary is that the audience may span as many as four generations. A clever way to please elders and jaded teens alike is to make the toast interactive. At their golden wedding anniversary celebration, one woman had her parents sit back-to-back onstage and answer Newlywed Game-style questions ("Who's more likely to lose their luggage on vacation?") that were read aloud by guests. Everyone talked about the toast for years afterward.

A Retirement

Celebrating the final chapter of someone's career usually takes one of two forms: nostalgic tribute or good old-fashioned roast. Consider the person you're toasting and the intended audience before you decide which way to go. Since toasts to retirees tend to be on the long side (they can, after all, span decades of work and last up to 5 or 10 minutes), make sure you're prepared. Rehearse and carry note cards, just in case.


By Sara James/RealSimple


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